Dating Vs Marriage

[Diva]

When you are dating..... Farting is never an issue
When you are married ....You make sure there's nothing flammable near your husband...... at all times

When you are dating..... He takes you out to have a good time
When you are married ....He brings home a 6 pack, and says "What are you going to drink?"

When you are dating..... He holds your hand in public
When you are married ....He flicks your ear in public

When you are dating..... A Single bed for 2 isn't THAT bad
When you are married ....A King size bed feels like an army cot

When you are dating..... You are turned on at the sight of him naked
When you are married ....You think to yourself...."Was he ALWAYS this hairy????"

When you are dating..... You enjoyed foreplay
When you are married ....You tell him "If we have sex, will you leave me alone???"

When you are dating..... He hugs you, when he walks by you ...for no reason
When you are married ....He grabs your boob any chance he gets

When you are dating..... You picture the two of you together, growing old together
When you are married ....You wonder who will die first

When you are dating..... Just looking at him makes you feel all "mushy"
When you are married ....When you look at him, you want to claw his eyes out.

When you are dating..... He knows what the "hamper" is
When you are married ....The floor will suffice as a dirty clothes storage area

When you are dating..... He understands if you "aren't in the mood"
When you are married ....He says "It's your job."

When you are dating..... He understands that you have "male" friends
When you are married ....He thinks they are all out to steal you away

When you are dating..... He likes to "discuss" things
When you are married ....He develops a "blank" stare

When you are dating..... He calls you by name
When you are married ....He calls you "Hey" and refers to you when speaking to others as "She.

[SunnyHeadcase]

Are you saying you never want to get married? Wait...are you or have you ever been married, I'm so confused. Personally I could see never getting married but still spending my whole life with someone. However I can see some advantages to getting married: tax breaks, parental units approval, ect. But I also see my generation as being very 'easy going' and slightly more afraid of commitment. Most of my female friends say they don't ever want to be pregnant, but in truth I know they prolly do, someday.

Anyway, what's the difference between marriage and living together, is there some sort of barrier that's broken down. I know I would not change if I married someone that I loved, but maybe I'm just assuming. Someone explain this to me a little, perhaps someone who is maried.






OK, I now realise that I responded rather seriously to what was supposed to be a humorous thread, but I'm still curious.

[Diva]

The point is more that people get too comfortable with one another. When you get something new, you tend to take care of it more. Once it's been broken in, the novelty wears off and a person isn't as careful. Remember the first dent in your car? Spilling something on your new clothes? The first time a guitar string breaks? Compare your reaction to how you react with those same items.

I do believe in marriage. Spending the rest of my life with someone, sans kids is a wonderful 'goal'. But I don't want someone who's going to take me for granted the minute the rice hits the floor. I understand that there is a settling in, as it were. But settling down and letting yourself go are two different things.

The difference between marriage and living together is a vow that you will be there together, sealed with a ring and a piece of paper. Then you have to go on faith.

[dc]

I was married @ 25 ---- hindsight---- too young for me, (married 12 years), no sex after 6 (kids ... ya know). I used masterbation as opposed to cheating to cope with it. Not as bad as it sounds, soo many of our "married couple" friends had it ALOT worse. I have been extreemly fortunate so far.

Bear with me here,

Lived with several wonderful ladies before and after the "whole" marriage thing, 3 years the longest, so far. I met 2 girls I used to live with like, 13 and 15 years later. I was speechless! I can't explain ...
People change, like it or not. have you seen that Mercedes commercial?

My experience has been night and day ... living together always gave the option of leaving once things get bad, and they ALWAYS do, unless you're an alien.

Relationships take alot of imagination, perseverance, love and work. Notice how I left out "in love"? There is a BIG difference.

"being [In Love] comes and goes, and as long as you both don't fall out of [in love] with each other at the same time ... it will work out"

A quote from a friends mom (married 52 years!). They are a HOOT!

I hope this will help but, realize the limitations of text correspondence. No body language, eye contact and all those other creepy things.

GOOD LUCK!

[Diva]

Spoken like a true warrior! I think we learn the most in our lives from eachother. You seem to have learned a lot. As I have.

I still believe in forever. I know that people change, but if they change together then it just makes the relationship stronger.

Do the kids live with you? You could be Mr Mom. You got the tits for it!

[SunnyHeadcase]

Originally posted by Diva
Spoken like a true warrior! I think we learn the most in our lives from eachother. You seem to have learned a lot. As I have. . .

I'm deffinately still learning and have to refer to obscure website forums for advice (j/k Diva.)
DC: I totally see what your saying about the option to leaven'n stuff. But I am also curious, does it seem that this day in age when divorce and prenumptiual agreements are no longer looked down upon (as much) and have pretty much become common practice that you still have that option (in a sick and twisted sort of way.)

[dc]

Oh ya, we always have options, and you are right about times changing making divorce almost a given escpecially here in SoCal.

For me that extra step of marriage seemed to be a double edged sword. Sometimes getting that trapped feeling, other times the extra commitment made me put forth more effort to try to work things out.

Kids on the other hand usually bind you together for life. Even after you split up you still have to maintain that relationship for the sake of the kids at least.

I really can't give you advice, just my experience

[Diva]

Originally posted by dancingchris
Oh ya, we always have options, and you are right about times changing making divorce almost a given escpecially here in SoCal.


That is a sad truth indeed. People divorce because you looked at them wrong. I'm hoping that it makes people think more about the commitment they are taking and not jump into it so fast. If you make a commitment, then stick to it, damn it! *Gets off the soap box*

[Redallnite]

When you are dating..... Farting is never an issue
When you are married ....You make sure there's nothing flammable near your husband...... at all times

SO TRUE, SO TRUE..:eek: When your dog even wakes up to bury her face in the pillow, AND then HE wakes himself up from the smell laughing because HE knows that it's killing me....

[dc]

Sounds like you have a "keeper" red ... some people have all the luck!

[Redallnite]

The Man was Born with an alien within the walls of the gas maker.

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