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Your walking down the street and notice a member or the opposite sex walking towards you. What would you do?
I get hammered all of the time for flirting. The problem is that I don't realize that I am doing it until the smack to the back of my head occurs. I call women names such as; darlin', sweetie, honey, babe and all in inocent formats. I don't mean anything by it. It was how my grand-dad talked to ladies and they giggled and smiled. Today is much the same in the ruralness of Georgia. People understand that we mean well and are not defamating their feminist character by our "sweet talkin". I could see a smack from my wife for grabbing a girls rear in the restrauant or bar. For goodness sake, can we not be friendly with total strangers anymore or do we continue to alienate ourselves from the world and our neighbors. "This is my space and don't enter it!" I welcome hand shakes from fellows that I first meet. I welcome hugs from female friends of whom I am aquainted.
According to the rules of society placed before me, we are not to do these sort of things or it acenuates flirting, cheating or the wanting to.
Fill us in on your view.
Oh and Darlin', you look very nice today.
>enter_cavern
>>It is dark. There's a small torch illuminating a patch of stone on the northwest wall. You are likely to be eaten by a grue.
Why would my garage decorations make anyone jealous. Sure they cost alot to feed but hey, they don't need clothes.
Your walking down the street and notice a member or the opposite sex walking towards you. What would you do?
People understand that we mean well and are not defamating their feminist character by our "sweet talkin". I could see a smack from my wife for grabbing a girls rear in the restrauant or bar. For goodness sake, can we not be friendly with total strangers anymore or do we continue to alienate ourselves from the world and our neighbors. "This is my space and don't enter it!" I welcome hand shakes from fellows that I first meet. I welcome hugs from female friends of whom I am aquainted.
According to the rules of society placed before me, we are not to do these sort of things or it acenuates flirting, cheating or the wanting to.
Fill us in on your view.
Oh and Darlin', you look very nice today.
Agreed on all counts. I called a woman "hon" the other day, and she looked at me like I had just dropped my pants and told her to get busy. Back home, these were terms of endearment for good friends, nice people, co-workers...and I can't believe how freaked out people get by people who are generally friendly and well-mannered. They automatically treat you as if you're trying to get something out of them. It's a shame. I've worked with guys who were sexually aggressive towards women with flirting and all (my uncle, mostly) and just by general association you can tell that there's a VAST difference between my innocent quips and his insane horndog attitude.
Nice garage decorations, by the way. :D
Oh, yeah, and I voted for the casual conversation, but with eye contact. That's an important thing regardless of who you're talking to.
You are actually asking two things.
First of all, being pleasant and being flirty are two different things. If you are being flirty then you have to expect the occasional misinterpretation.
Your wife and your views are obviously different. I think that out of respect for your wife you should have come to an agreement long ago about acceptable flirting. A lot of people dont like to see their significant other flirting with someone else, even if it's just harmless.
kittyroze
08-17-04, 11:23AM
When single, I'll happily go start a conversation.
Flirting, in my opinion, is a matter of intent.
Points taken and I sincerely thought that we had an agreement. It was not to do it around her. I tend to forget or get caught up in the moment. She has commented that I only flirt with attractive women. I have so far refrained from commenting on that statement. It may be detrimental to my health to do such a thing. And I agree with Kitty, it is the matter of intent in which flirting is done that is important. I don't expect the women that I have flirted with to flop their rear in my lap. I accomindate them with something hopefully to make them feel good about themselves. (That old man out there wants me.) LOL..........Although it has backfired on me a few times in unexpected situations that resulting in no harm to anyone including my relationship. People have to be responsible for their actions and honest with others. That is all it boils down to. I know that it makes me have a better day when a total stranger walks up and says something like, "You're cute." If I had a dollar for everytime that happened to me well, I wouldn't have any money. I am just trying to make a point.
whitecrow
08-17-04, 03:58PM
I am *very* *very* *very* shy. I have...er...confidence issues...
HeavensAngel
08-17-04, 05:51PM
Well now. I saw the title of this thread and thought, "this must be about
Boozer". LOL
Love ya Al :)
What made you think of me?
/me gooses PB.
Honestly, when it comes to something like this, I usually don't approach them. I can talk all day long, but when it comes to flirting with someone who I think might be interested, I usually get tongue tied; especially if I think there's a chance in hell she'd be interested in me. Alcohol usually loosens me up enough to flirt with women I'm attracted to. I'm not talking falling down drunk, but "comfortably numb" - just a slight buzz.
I'll flirt with women online mainly because I think there's no chance that any of them would want to hook up with me. Most of the people I talk to are from other states (or countries), so why would they be interested in me?
I lso think flirting is part of a defense mechanism for me. Hard to explain what I mean by this, but that's the feeling I get.
Bassmama
08-18-04, 03:27AM
I don't think I remember how to flirt any more. Don't know if I ever really did that much- I was too insecure, & it always seemed like a head game to me. I'm more of an 'in your face' type of person- here I am, you either like me or you don't (I've come a LONG way!)
I chose casual conversation, but WITH eye contact- if someone won't meet my eyes, I don't trust them. I can usually tell if the person's truely shy or just playing the shy part (Boozer's TRUELY shy!) & respond accordingly.
Icey- I know what you're saying about the 'endearments', but when someone starts laying them on TOO thick, my guard starts going up. The 'good old boy' mentality went farther than that years ago- while I was down in Ga. a couple of months ago, my uncle (who I barely knew) thought it was OK and funny to swat my butt. I told him more than once that I would deck him if he kept it up & have him arrested, and finally got him to knock it off when visiting Stone Mt. & he came up behind me & blew on the back of my ear & I LOUDLY asked him what fascination he had with blowing on the back of my ear & putting his hand on my ass. My birthmom said that it was a form of endearment down south- in other parts of the country, it's called 'assault'. As far as I'm concerned, it's not too far removed from calling rape OK, because the victim's pants were a little tight.
If you want to call me 'sweetie, honey, darlin'...' or any other pet names, we'd BETTER be well on our way to a heavy duty relationship, or at LEAST be good friends. (BTW- you can call me any of those, if you want to, depending how you mean it! I consider you my friend!) From someone you just meet, it IS a 'come on' if you're flirting. To most women, if a man you're with flirts with other women, he's sizing them up for possible conquest. (As far as we're concerned, that means you're taking us for granted & ripe for cheating)
Excellent comments Boozer and Bassmama. These sort of things were exactly what I was searching for.
I will tell you that even in the south, butt smacking and blowing on the ear ARE NOT terms of endearment, at least not in this area. Sports players smack each others butt. I don't know why and I never liked that idea. (Good job out there *SMACK*. Then why the hell are you hitting me.) When I was single and I went as far as to randomly touch you, it would be on the hand, arm or shoulders. I am a firm believer in not invading someone space unless given the green light.
Thank you for letting me call you a pet name. LOL. I use names of those sorts depending on my mood. For the most part, I stay grumpy, ill and frustrated. I won't get into the reasons why. However, sometimes I am in better moods and actually nice to people. LOL
Excellent comments Boozer and Bassmama. These sort of things were exactly what I was searching for.
Oh really? I thought EVERYONE'S comments were deserving of praise. Exactly what things were you 'searching' for?
Everyone's comments were welcomed and weighed into my equation. I was noticing the last two post just I have tried to regonize everyone else in similar formats. GEEZ, you don't cut any slack do you.
/me raises hand and thinks about smacking Diva in the back of head. *Maybe NOT!
I am rolling, here. Okay, nearly everyone has excellent opinions. As I have learn here though, there should be some foundation for the comments you make or you are just extinquishing other's valuable time with useless words. Correct. By George, I think he's finally got it.
I don't like to have my punk card pulled as I try not to pull other people's. Now look what you have gone and done. Got me all off the subject. LOL. That's okay SWEETIE, I understand.
LOL,,,,,HAH AHA HA HA HAHHA HAHA HAH AHHAHHAHHAHH
My side hurts.
I just call em as I read em.
As I have learn here though, there should be some foundation for the comments you make or you are just extinquishing other's valuable time with useless words. Correct.
What are you talking about here?
Ice Man: As I have learn here though, there should be some foundation for the comments you make or you are just extinquishing other's valuable time with useless words.
Diva: What are you talking about here?
Ice Man: I don't know.
That's quite contradictory, don't you think?
Why do you suppose that I did that? On purpose maybe to prove a valid point.
Just a minute and I will fiqure one out for it.
Why do you suppose that I did that? On purpose maybe to prove a valid point.
Just a minute and I will fiqure one out for it.
I doubt it....
But ok.
Oh ye of little faith. I do tend to get side tracked. I drink from aluminum cans, you know. That's hazardous for your health. Makes your memories go................What was I talking about.
Hey, you are cute. Come here darlin and bring me a beer while your headed this way.
thestarsfall
08-21-04, 06:45PM
Ice Man: you are a nutty guy....
Bassmama
08-22-04, 04:26AM
Oh ye of little faith. I do tend to get side tracked. I drink from aluminum cans, you know. That's hazardous for your health. Makes your memories go................What was I talking about.
Hey, you are cute. Come here darlin and bring me a beer while your headed this way.
Yeah? Dream on, sucker- you have 2 legs & arms with hands attached- move your lazy ass & get it yourself! Ya think we're "cute" NOW? We're NOT your Mama!
:kissy:
thestarsfall
08-22-04, 09:51AM
i get called cute every day....everything i do is cute in my little sisters eyes for some reason...
...i have been accused of being a flirt...mainly cuz they guys i hang with think that if a girl is nice to them then she likes them as more than friends....im a very touchy feely type of person so i like hanging off ppls arms and walking arm in arm and hugging a lot and what not...so if a guy likes me he gets jealous cuz i hug other guys a lot...and if they dont like me they think i like them because i hug them and hang out with them alot....messed up ppl they are
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