saying hello

[sydoz]

hi i'm relatively new here, haven't actually posted before, but love to read the threads. I live in Sydney Australia and it's sunday afternoon , I have 3 kids and love getting on the net, travelling catching up with friends, psp and some other things I cant think of at the moment. Just got some really bad news and not sure what to do to help. Does anyone have any ideas? Myl best friend just found out she has breast cancer a couple of months ago and was in sydney for a quick visit and got admitted to hospital today, she's in a bad way and I just don't know what to do or say. I don't want to keep her on the phone too long as it hurts her to talk. Any one going through the same thing with a loved one? Sorry to be so depressing
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[Diva]

Hey sydoz. I've had to deal with a lot of cancer patients. This is a very scary thing and I can give you some helpful hints. Treat her like she's healthy. Try to joke with her and make her smile. We actually did a huge study on the effects of laughter for illnesses and it had a remarkable effect. Whatever you do, don't look at her like she's dying. I've held patients while they cried, telling me their family looks at them as if they're already dead. Your strength gives her strength.

It's good to see you. Welcome to NCT. :)

[sydoz]

thanks diva , I knew about the laughter thing , I do honestly believe that too. It's jsut that when I spoke to her 2 days ago before she landed in hospital for the 3rd time I had the worst premonition that it was almost the end soon, of course I did'nt let her know what I was feeling or thinking but I feel so totally helpless!!! We've been really close for almost 20 years :*(

[JakeD]

It's good to see you posting, sydoz, although I'm sad to hear of your friend's condition. My grandfather had cancer, and it eventually got the best of him...it's still a tough subject to deal with and me and my family have a hard time believing that he's gone every day...but the only good thing about his passing was that he didn't have to suffer with it anymore. That's the only way you can look at it once it's all said and done.

I wish you and her the best of luck, though, and I hope that you and her stay friends no matter what...the best thing you can do is to be there for her and offer your support, much like Diva said.

[sydoz]

yeah thanks jaked but she is only 44!!!!

[Banger]

Hey sydoz...glad you took the time to stop in and say hello. I, too, am sorry to hear about your friend. I think JakeD and Diva said it all.
20 years is a long time being friends, I think the love and support you lend goes a long way in helping someone in that condition get through it all. We are all here in lending you some of that same support. I hope your friend takes a turn for the best...and you share another 20 years together as friends.

[Jake]

Welcome to NCT, Sydoz. Your friend is in my prayers. I hope all is well.

[Boozer]

Welcome Sydoz. Sorry to hear about your friend.

[twistedzipper]

welcome to nct, im sure to include your friend in my prayers also,come back when you can sydoz

[usantic]

Hello sydoz, I look forward to seeing you post!

[whitecrow]

Hiya Sydoz, good to see another Roo here in the forums. My luck and wishes to your friend. The best advise is to stand by them. Sometimes, that's all you need to get you through.

Welcome to NCT. It's great here. (tm)