One Love

[Diva]

You know the saying, "Love is forever". Do you believe that it is true? Aside from physical and emotional harm... when you truly love someone can you really get over them when they're gone?

If you 'fall out of love', do you believe that you never loved them at all?

[chica]

I believe that it is true. I haven't seen a really good friend for 4 years or so, and i still care for him to this day. Though i fell out of lust, i still love, which also goes for a few exes, even the ones i don't really talk to much anymore, i still care about their well being, just like i do my siblings. You can fall out of love, which most of the time is just lust, and still love a person. If the love was unconditional, it will stay unconditional.

[warza bidul]

I don't believe so much in the use of the word love than inn the word compassion. We may feel compassion for many people but love is something quite different. Love has the connotation of long lasting, of ownership and more. Compassion is something far more egalitarian. If I say I love somebody then it's true for a short moment in time. If I feel compassion for someone though that will last far longer.

I have not yet arrived to the life I want to lead therefore it's more truthfull to say that I feel compassion than love... maybe afraid of using the word love but I don't think that's the cause.

[JakeD]

I've still felt "in love" with a couple of my exes even after we broke it off. Everytime I saw them or heard their name I'd start thinking about them, missing them. After a while, that faded away too. When I "fall out of love", there's usually a large degree of attachment that is lost. It takes a good deal of attachment and commitment for me to tell someone that I love them, and when that attachment is broken and the commitment is spoiled, that destroys the whole thing for me.

[kittyroze]

I think that you allow that love to fade once you know it's officially over. It doesn't mean that it was invalid when you first felt it though. Love can last forever, but you need to make it.

[Jake]

Originally posted by kittyroze
Love can last forever, but you need to make it.

Very good point, kitty. You never stop working at a relationship. I believe that a good portion of the divorces are do to people giving up on eachother.

[DJ Malkav]

love is forever if you want it to be, i mean in my mind if you truly loved that person and even in death you should still lover her (not saying sex would change) but death dosn't have to be the end if it was the end of love then what steh point of falling in love?

[warza bidul]

I'm confused by the word love and how it's used. If love comes and then goes was it really love or just something based on circumstances, did it require certain conditions for it to remain love?

Is it right that we love someone but are not loved back? If we enjoy someone's company and there's an attachment is this love or is it less.

What makes love love?