More Dates From Hell

[Diva]

Bad dates from hell, last time you got stood up, etc.

Where do I begin! Where do I end? I'll start with an old story. I was set up on a blind date to a guys' prom by his friend. The guy was cute, so I didn't know why he couldn't find a date. I was 15, he was 17. Then he opened his mouth. He said hi and then blushed. Okay... I can deal with this. The rest of the night I sat and peeled off my nail polish. The guy hardly said a word. Then we hop back into the limo and he consumes a bottle of cold duck all by himself. I pretended to be asleep the rest of the way home so 'Mr frisky' would back off his new found personality.

[thestarsfall]

i just had a date with a friend of mine...he thought we were going to be more than friends but i didnt know...he wore waaaaay too much cologne i felt sick during the whole date....

[Jake]

Hey there Twitch. I feel your pain. I took out a lady who must have poured a bucket over her head of some sweet smelling purfume. That was like rotten fruit. I practically drove with my head out the window. It was so bad my food tasted like she poured it in there.

My truck smelled for months.

[kittyroze]

I haven't had so many bad dates as I've had psuedo stalkers...I have a knack for picking up guys with low self-esteem who need something to cling to. And it always ends up being me.

[Jake]

I think we'd all have some stories on that one.

[SunnyHeadcase]

I don't date as much as I (and apparently some people I work in the same building with) want to. But I have had my share of bad ones. Like the time I wasn't aware I was going on a date until half way through the night my friend says, "so this dates half way over, do you like me or not?"

[Diva]

So, what did you say to her, Sunny? Hmmm?

One ex [Here's just one example of why he's an ex] took me out for Valentines day. He shows up and asks where I want to go to dinner. It's 6:30 on Valentine's day. I couldn't believe he didnt make a reservation. No way would we find a place. He told me that I didn't know what I was talking about and we left for the restaurant. The earliest time was 45 minutes, the latest time was 1 1/2 hours. All the while I sat fuming in the car as we drove from place to place. You know where we ended up eating? Bobs Big Boy. That was our last date. EVER. :rant:


http://www.nochicktrix.com/fun/oth/vb/me/bobsbigboy.jpg

[kittyroze]

My ex-boyfriend's idea of a date was to take me out somewhere nice, then have me pay. Now, I don't expect to be taken out and treated, I prefer to pay my own way. But the lazy ass should have taken care of himself. For those of you keeping up with what I'm posting, he's the first guy I tortured as a character in the Sims. Something about having low self esteem and dating an asshole out of a need to be loved that makes you bitter. I'm better now. But still bitter.

[kittyroze]

Oh, and then there's the skipping birthdays, christmas and valentine's day thing. This is the same ex, btw. Two years. In high school. I think that counts as forever doesn't it? HS years are kinda like dog years. Ugh, I'm going to go study.

[SysLord]

How come it lasted 2 years? :confused:

[kittyroze]

Um...I didn't grow a backbone until halfway through the relationship. At that point I figured I'd try and give him another chance...or ten. I have this nasty habit of trying to work things out...it takes me awhile to realize the other person isn't trying. Wait, change that. In this case he just wasn't bright enough to even see the problem.

For years I had self esteem issues (like any good teenage girl). I figured if he didn't love me, then why would anyone else?

I'm better now, I promise ;)

[SysLord]

I think any teenager full stop struggles with concepts as self esteem at a certain point in time. The key is: can you turn it around. Seems like you are on the right track. I am very happy about that :)

[kittyroze]

The problem is finding a balance between boorish overly demanding bitch and whimpering spineless doormat. There seems to be a bit of a pendulum like action with most people.

[SysLord]

I think that pendulum starts finding a proper balance with experience as it comes over the years. Well with most people anyway :)

[kittyroze]

Hopefully...I've been running into far too many people older than me who are still just crazy...and not learning anything new about life. It made me wonder if you stop really growing at some point. Which would not be cool. I'm sure you know some people who just seem to have gotten stuck.

[SysLord]

Very true, it's almost like some people have a certain capacity to grow and once that is used up, there's little or no room to progress anymore. I guess it's all part of nature's way of diversifying things.

[kittyroze]

I suppose. I guess I just want to continuously diversify. Really if I could do everything...I would. Just to keep things interesting. Not that sticking with one thing is bad. Just ... yeah. If it's the only thing then it's generally not quite enough for me.

[SysLord]

That's always been my point of view too. When I was in college - huh some time ago - the tendancy was to specialize in certain skills/topics. I always disagreed with that simply because I believe that in the long run 'generalists' are much more valuable. They may not be king of the hill in one area but are people who are more flexible and omnivalent/polyvalent.

[kittyroze]

Yeah, over specialization seems to lead ultimately to weakness...simply because people become unaware of the bigger picture. Although, if you're fairly bright you can get pretty close to the top of a few fields at the same time. I actually pride myself on adaptability.

[SysLord]

Adaptability is a great asset if it comes from within you not when it is forced upon you by business geeks. I had my fair share of that when I was in college. Some none short of a small brainwashing session.

[kittyroze]

I'm the only business major here who mocks the major. I was pre-med then I went into film. After business I'm going to spend a couple of years at an art school doing graphic design.

I never thought of Bus folks as geeks. The ones here are...um...not so bright. I've made friends with the engineers.

[kittyroze]

In any case...the adaptability comes from within...I'm not going to be assimilated...the bus folks here are too dull for my tastes. Although, I suppose I shouldn't be so critical of them. But too late, damage done.

[SysLord]

Be critical when you have to, even when you are not allowed or when it's not appropriate. It's the only way to come out of a business school unscathed.

[kittyroze]

Well, did you read my bit about the rubik's cube? I'm more than happy to be critical, I just would rather not be a total bitch.

[SysLord]

I did. My comment was meant to people in general not just you. Being a total bitch is always in the eye of the beholder.

[kittyroze]

True true. And off the subject of bitch...the avatar is adorable!

[SysLord]

ta! I just hope diva won't turn total bitch on me for the avatar not being within the proper size :)

Besides: I know about bitches: my sister is a scorpio too and I had to learn my gf not use the word 'NOW' anymore in every 3 sentences she said.

[kittyroze]

hee hee hee...a friend of my says "No, but..." at the beginning of every sentence. It drive me nuts. Although, temper isn't what scorpios are necessarily known for. BTW, this is the oddest "conversation" I've had I do believe. Very diverse, wouldn't you say? ;)

[SysLord]

You can say that again. We are 'articifially' bumping up the total post count like the Enron prefits. It's great fun, enjoyable and a learning experience :)

[kittyroze]

True true...now the question is will Diva be happy we increased post numbers, or irritated we just used it to chat amongst ourselves? :winkkiss:

[SysLord]

We'll know tomorrow if we find ourselves banned or not :D

[kittyroze]

Lol, she seems to be a sweetie, I doubt we'll be banned. (can you just see the butt kissing?)

[SysLord]

Actually not, can you demonstrate it to me? ;)

[kittyroze]

Lol, if I did it would probably be the thing that got us banned ;)

[SysLord]

Hehe, don't take the chance. Back to bitches?

[kittyroze]

Well for you...I think I'm supposed to talk about bastards ;)

[SysLord]

eheh, do you they exist?

[kittyroze]

Um...what? Do I think they exist? They are some definite assholes out there...but I prefer harsher terms than bastard ;)

[SysLord]

Let me hear them. Pretend you are hitting me.

[kittyroze]

Lol, the rage of Cat is rare...and scary, like I said, I'm a scorpio. I don't think you or the forum could handle it.

Seriously though, maybe we should let Biff's Thread get back on topic, eh?

[SysLord]

Remind me lol

[kittyroze]

Of the thread topic? Baaad dates essentially. I could always go back to complaining about that ex of mine. I typically refer to him as evil ex.

[SysLord]

So there's only 1 evil ex? Or are we talking multiples here?

[kittyroze]

One evil ex...the others have been forgiven. Kinda. Evil ex as I said before forgot important dates and didn't put any effort into the relationship. We had completely different personalities. The thing is, I figured he could still be honest with me. Nope. I got cheated on big time. Over a period of time. Funny thing is, he prides himself on being a very religious very moral person...I'm an atheist (not an angry one...I'm not going to bitch out anyone else here with religious sentiments), and yet I definitely was much more into honesty and integrity than he was.
Other exes include a genius, who's now at Caltech (pretty much cheated on me, but out of emotional immaturity, not complete ignorance like evil ex), an artsy guy who dumped me randomly on our anniversary (after giving me his playstation), and an ex-drug dealer. The drug dealer was the result of me being fed up with men and just trying to have a purely physical relationship with someone who was outside of "my type". That didn't work out so good.

[kittyroze]

Don't mind me as I just tell you my entire dating history ;)

[SysLord]

*tap* *tap* I am waiting. Maybe your current boyfriend might even pick up something new here :)

[kittyroze]

Lol, I doubt it. I'm pretty talkative and open about everything. You want a full dating history? It might be scary...or dull. Either way, it may not be fun. ;)

[SysLord]

Feel free to splash out. Don't leave out the juicy details ;)

[kittyroze]

Juicy details? Whatever do you mean? ;)

[SysLord]

The time that one of your ex-'es covered you in whipcream of course :)

[kittyroze]

Sadly I've had no experience with whipped cream. Other things perhaps...but maybe I should play modest. ;)

[SysLord]

Modesty suits you so we wait for any details you wish to disclose :)

[kittyroze]

It suits me? Were you trying to be punny perhaps? Suit...covers up...or...nevermind...I AM tired. I think the modesty card will work well when played this time around ;) Although Biff seemed impressed by my ability to be trashy and use big words. :winkkiss:

[SysLord]

nudges kittyroze ;)

[kittyroze]

*whistles*

[SysLord]

*gives kittyroze some belgian chocolate to suck on*

[kittyroze]

Ooooh!!! Chocolate!!! My one experience recording music I'd written was embarrassingly about my love of chocolate. A cousin of mine decided we needed an album in an hour club. So we wrote and put together 6 songs in...well three hours...but close enough. They were all pretty humorous.

[SysLord]

chocolate love songs? Hot chocolate? :D

[kittyroze]

It was very pop music in sound...not my style. I've actually had a few years of classical voice training...but I prefer reggae/jazz/punk/ska...typically.

[Diva]

Originally posted by SysLord
ta! I just hope diva won't turn total bitch on me for the avatar not being within the proper size :)

Nope. Just changed it to the proper size. :p

By the way, I'm not a bitch. Okay?

[Diva]

I have a couple of 'evil' exs. One guy was a 2nd degree black belt in Tai Kwon Do. He used to tour. Anyway, he was physically abusive. I was 14 and he was 19. I ended up living with him, which I to this day don't remember why. I remember waking up with him over me saying, "I can kill you with this pressure point, or this pressure point, or..." You get the drift. One morning I brought him breakfast. As I learned over to put the tray down [he was on the couch], he swung his arm out and I went flying back into table and chairs. Two broken arms, fractured ribs and bruised jaw later I decided enough is enough. He came through the door and I hit him over the head with a baseball bat. Then I ran out to my bike and was gone. He tried to find me a couple of times, but finally gave up.

[SysLord]

Sorry Diva, although I was meant in jest, I apologise for the usage of the word *slap myself*

[Jake]

Guys that hit women have no use in society. They're weak minded losers. I have no problem with walking away from a volitile situation. Any guy that thinks they're less a man if they don't beat the living tar out of someone isn't a man to begin with.

[Jake]

Heh. Good picture.

So what did you do? More importantly, what did she do? It breaks my heart to see a good person give up on themself

[SysLord]

Wife bashers are absolute scum. Nuff said.