Bassmama
06-14-11, 07:57AM
And my sister in law is a co-fucktard.
As most of you know, for the last 2 1/2 years I have been dealing with breast cancer related issues. (Chemo, 5 surgeries, almost checking out from a staph infection in my blood, taking all this past winter to build my health back up...) What most of you DON'T know is that I have had NO help from my brother or sister in law. Not even one call from my sister in law EVER in that time (granted she was sick & in the hospital a few times, so more weight goes on him than her), but I KNOW their phone works & I KNOW she knows my number- the following will prove it.
Yesterday afternoon I was dozing off after having a morning full of emptying out my somewhat clogged lungs from allergies, & my phone rings. I expected it to be Bones, because he has a knack for knowing when I come upstairs & near the phone. We're what, 3 thou miles away from each other? Yet we seem to telecommunicate. But I digress.
"Hello': (me)
"Hello, Susan?..." (Sis in law)
and she starts excitedly asking me if I would like to do her a favor & come over today to wash her hair. After all, "I'm HELPLESS!"
Silence. I gotta wake up & pay attention- did I really just get a "Please do me a favor...?" call???? I have her repeat her request after I get over the shock of it all. Between that, & being semi braindead from being asleep, I have her repeat what she just said.
My first reaction? "Ummmm.... I'm VERY reluctant to come over & do ANYTHING for either of you at this point." & proceeded to remind her about the LAST thing they did- had a surprise birthday party for my mom's 91st birthday party & I found out about it AFTER IT WAS OVER! She kept saying "it wasn't me..." & said that after all, didn't I have a doctor's appointment? I told her yes, but was I given the opportunity to change it? Rather obviously NOT!
I proceeded to tell her that I'd been helpless for most of the last 2 1/2 years & been told "I have time to help mom, but I don't have ANY time to help you." when I asked my brother if he'd please pick up some antibiotic cream since he was taking my mother to a DRUG STORE to get her meds. I told her that I'd had to depend on my friends to do EVERYTHING for me & ended up having to drive to pick it up 2 days post surgery when I had strict instructions NOT to drive for at least 3 weeks.
Now she needs ME? If I'm not good enough to bother with when I need help, especially since I'd called & offered any help they needed when I found out that she'd been in the hospital 4 or 5 tomes, what makes her think I'd rush right over to do HER (them) a favor when she had noone else to ask? What? RICKY doesn't know how to wash hair? Tough shit. Ain't it? Guess you're gonna have to get your hands wet, huh?
I asked her how she would feel if her sister had done that to her & consider how I'd felt. She didn't have any answer for that one. I told her that she'd always had help- her mother, her husband. MY "supposed to be" family couldn't even be bothered to inquire as to my well being but felt free to ask me a favor & pulled the "I'm HELPLESS" card on me.
Didn't work, did it, Debbie? SEND that fucktard over & I'll tell him- like you kept trying to stop me with. "Tell Ricky, not me." That doesn't impress me in the least. Yo could have called me- you called mom every day, so I KNOW your phone worked & you called me yesterday, so I KNOW you had my phone number, & I have Vonage & can go on site to see every incoming & outgoing call during a certain time period, & didn't see ANY incoming calls to invite me to ANYTHING in that time period.
I CHOOSE to NOT be around anyone that treats me like shit until they need me. And that includes you both, Rick & Debbie. The birthday thing WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WILL EVER HURT ME. If you do ANYTHING else, I WILL move out & leave her for you to grandma sit until she' "gone": I've been doing it for the last 5 years with NO help from you. Now, unless it's life threatening & you wil DIE without my help, do NOT ask me for help.
Fucktards.
As most of you know, for the last 2 1/2 years I have been dealing with breast cancer related issues. (Chemo, 5 surgeries, almost checking out from a staph infection in my blood, taking all this past winter to build my health back up...) What most of you DON'T know is that I have had NO help from my brother or sister in law. Not even one call from my sister in law EVER in that time (granted she was sick & in the hospital a few times, so more weight goes on him than her), but I KNOW their phone works & I KNOW she knows my number- the following will prove it.
Yesterday afternoon I was dozing off after having a morning full of emptying out my somewhat clogged lungs from allergies, & my phone rings. I expected it to be Bones, because he has a knack for knowing when I come upstairs & near the phone. We're what, 3 thou miles away from each other? Yet we seem to telecommunicate. But I digress.
"Hello': (me)
"Hello, Susan?..." (Sis in law)
and she starts excitedly asking me if I would like to do her a favor & come over today to wash her hair. After all, "I'm HELPLESS!"
Silence. I gotta wake up & pay attention- did I really just get a "Please do me a favor...?" call???? I have her repeat her request after I get over the shock of it all. Between that, & being semi braindead from being asleep, I have her repeat what she just said.
My first reaction? "Ummmm.... I'm VERY reluctant to come over & do ANYTHING for either of you at this point." & proceeded to remind her about the LAST thing they did- had a surprise birthday party for my mom's 91st birthday party & I found out about it AFTER IT WAS OVER! She kept saying "it wasn't me..." & said that after all, didn't I have a doctor's appointment? I told her yes, but was I given the opportunity to change it? Rather obviously NOT!
I proceeded to tell her that I'd been helpless for most of the last 2 1/2 years & been told "I have time to help mom, but I don't have ANY time to help you." when I asked my brother if he'd please pick up some antibiotic cream since he was taking my mother to a DRUG STORE to get her meds. I told her that I'd had to depend on my friends to do EVERYTHING for me & ended up having to drive to pick it up 2 days post surgery when I had strict instructions NOT to drive for at least 3 weeks.
Now she needs ME? If I'm not good enough to bother with when I need help, especially since I'd called & offered any help they needed when I found out that she'd been in the hospital 4 or 5 tomes, what makes her think I'd rush right over to do HER (them) a favor when she had noone else to ask? What? RICKY doesn't know how to wash hair? Tough shit. Ain't it? Guess you're gonna have to get your hands wet, huh?
I asked her how she would feel if her sister had done that to her & consider how I'd felt. She didn't have any answer for that one. I told her that she'd always had help- her mother, her husband. MY "supposed to be" family couldn't even be bothered to inquire as to my well being but felt free to ask me a favor & pulled the "I'm HELPLESS" card on me.
Didn't work, did it, Debbie? SEND that fucktard over & I'll tell him- like you kept trying to stop me with. "Tell Ricky, not me." That doesn't impress me in the least. Yo could have called me- you called mom every day, so I KNOW your phone worked & you called me yesterday, so I KNOW you had my phone number, & I have Vonage & can go on site to see every incoming & outgoing call during a certain time period, & didn't see ANY incoming calls to invite me to ANYTHING in that time period.
I CHOOSE to NOT be around anyone that treats me like shit until they need me. And that includes you both, Rick & Debbie. The birthday thing WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WILL EVER HURT ME. If you do ANYTHING else, I WILL move out & leave her for you to grandma sit until she' "gone": I've been doing it for the last 5 years with NO help from you. Now, unless it's life threatening & you wil DIE without my help, do NOT ask me for help.
Fucktards.