Being dumped before the marriage

[SysLord]

One of our closest friends sprang a surprise visit upon us today. Unfortunately the surprise turned out to be a not so nice one. Her boyfriend who she has been living with for 3.5 years now told her that he doesn't love her anymore, and that 2 months before they were supposed to get married in June. She reckons that he choosing his career as musician over their relationship. She is absolutely devastated and so are we :( She doesn't know if she wants to try and patch things up, possibly by living separate for a while but I have my doubts that it would make any difference.

Life can turn real ugly at the most unexpected times :(

[Diva]

Everyone's going to say the same thing: Better now than after they got married. While I agree the sooner the better, the worst part is knowing that the other person was falling out of love with you and you never knew it. I always hesitate to support people getting back together when something like this happens. I choose to support the person [people] individually and whatever choices they make.

[Jennafer]

I'd be like "okay, well maybe next time." Back to the fun! I know I'd be hurt too, but there's always a flip side to everything and ya just keep movin on. (ya got me all philosophical today) :rolleyes:

[Jennafer]

Oh, and on the radio is "goodbye to you" by Scandle.......Neat.:)

[SysLord]

Well, we did speak candidly to her and told her our opinion that that we think it's not going to work anymore. The sickening thing is that she is still so much in love with him.

[Jake]

So true every one is going to say the same thing I guess thats one of those things about the truth. However thats of little help to someone who has had their whole world shattered and their heart torn out. There is nothing any one is ever going to say that will make that kind of hurt go away. Somethings only time will ever heal and even then the scars can still run deep and last a lifetime. There is nothing you can do or say all you can do is to be there for her and give what ever emotional support you can while time does the rest.:(

Be careful about what you say to her, SL. If they get back together the next thing you know your words will come back to haunt you.

[SysLord]

Yep Jake, we realize that. We try to support her in any way we can without burning bridges.